In some cases, Japanese couples get married after knowing the bride
gets pregnant. We sometimes call this kind of marriage "Dekityatta kon".
The nuance of this expression is complicated a bit.
In Japanese, when we say "tyatta" that means "accidentally".
And it has childish and cute nuance.
20 years ago, Dekityatta kon was not accepted socially, however,
the situation seems to be changing. I often hear someone get married
in this style.
I think people still avoid disclosing openly though. Close friends would
be known by the couple.
But it's true that Japanese people usually do not raise their baby
without registering the marriage. I heard that some of the couples
raise their baby without registering the marriage in Europe.
2 comments:
Denmark is a country that is very liberal when it comes to views on marriage and couples. For example, already back in 1989 a law was passed that allowed the so galled "registered partnerships" - which is basically like a marriage, just not called marriage. Such registered partners have the same rights as a married couple - they share taxes, address, .... Both oposite-sex and same-sex couples can be registerd this way - the laws are the same for both. So, it has been legaly and socially accepted for people to rase children without being married at all. Of course, older people don't like it, if they hear that their grandchild is expecting a baby without being married, but still it is accepted.
That said, also here many people choose marriage when they find out - after all, once you have a baby together, your lives are connected for ever anyway.
Shantal ForSD
Generally speaking, bringing up a baby without getting married has not been accepted yet in Japan.
People tend to pay attention to
the other person's eyes in Japanese
society. I guess there is a big
difference between your culture
in that sense.
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